Five Signs You Are Ready for a Change and What You can do to Embrace the New You
You’re staring out the window at the world around you. You’re feeling jaded, unmotivated, and lifeless as you watch everything continue to move and carry on with the daily grind.
You wonder if it is normal to feel so apathetic. To feel so disconnected and discouraged about your current reality. You wonder if anyone else feels hopeless, stuck, and scared that this is it. That this daily mundane experience is where you will stay for the rest of your life.
Deep down you know there’s more. You know there’s more life, love, and laughter available. But, right now it all feels so far away. It all feels like a dream, a wish, a vision that plays over and over in your mind that can disappear in the blink of an eye when you’re pulled back to daily duties, roles, and identities.
You begin to question yourself and your sanity. You begin questioning your decisions and relationships. You begin to wonder about who you are and who you want to be.
And feelings of guilt, shame, and sadness can surface.
Why isn’t this enough?
Why do I feel so empty when I have so much in my life to be grateful for?
Why can’t I just be happy here?
All of these questions push down your desires for change. All of these doubts dismiss your need for something different.
When you’re in need of a change, your body begins to communicate to you in subtle ways. For some, their body manifests disease, illness, or discomfort when things in their external world no longer serve them. For others, their mental processes are disturbed and irregular, resulting in poor cognitive skills and psychological distress.
There are several signposts that can signify you need a change.
Feeling Depressed or Anxious. Too often our society mistakes depression and anxiety for a clinical mental illness. Unless you meet the diagnostic criteria for a mental health condition, anxiety and depression may actually be a result of being in incorrect jobs, relationships, or situations. Those with situational depression and anxiety may benefit from leaving and removing things that trigger their nervous system into the fight, flight, or freeze response. Removing triggers that cause anxiety and depression can result in a stable mood, mental state, and improved sense of self.
Feeling Frustrated, Bitter, or Angry. Similarly, feelings of frustration, resentment, or anger can be a sign that one isn’t being seen or valued. It can also result from dissatisfaction with outcomes, relationships, jobs, or even oneself. In these instances, feelings of frustration and anger can indicate a need for a change in perspective or outlook as well.
Being Bored and Tired. It is normal to be bored and exhausted from time to time. But, if boredom and fatigue are part of your daily life, possibly it is time for a change to bring about excitement and joy. Being bored can be a motivator for seeking out something new to indulge in and enjoy.
Having Chronic Health Conditions, Complications, Injuries, and Illness. Being in the wrong situations and environments can deplete your body’s energy. Overworking yourself or putting up with toxic people can break down your immunity and cause you to develop certain health conditions. In addition, pain and injuries can result in repetitive motions and habits. f your body is constantly fighting stress and toxins, it may be time to make a change to support your well-being.
Having Vivid Dreams and Visions. Dreams are a fascinating route to our subconscious. Everyone who sleeps experiences dreams at some level. Often those who can recall their dreams or have vivid dreams are accessing a part of their brain that can have valuable messages. While there are several dream philosophies out there, one may believe that dreams have important messages that provide insights into our deep desires.
While it is normal to experience these things from time to time, it takes time to realize what is the root cause and if it is worth acting upon to make a change. For some people, it may take years from them to get clear on what needs adjusting. The key is to take time and discern the conditions that are no longer serving you.
In human design terms, this is the process of using your unique authority to assess your not-self themes and conditioning to make changes that are correct for you and your energy type. If you’re stuck and want to learn how your energy works, you can review my human design offerings and services that can help you understand your unique energy type.
However, if distress perpetuates and affects the way you live your life, it may be time to assess the underlying circumstances impacting your well-being. In some cases, a simple change in your morning routine or change in diet is the solution you need to feel restored and enthusiastic about your life. Making a simple change every once in a while may be the perfect remedy to rejuvenate your spirit. (Your unique human design can also reveal characteristics of your personality through your profile that represent the ways in which you are here to interact and evolve in the world. You can use this website to get your free chart.)
A change can be a number of things from internal changes to external changes. An internal change is a shift in your inner state of being. This could be a change in mindset, perspective, motivation, or outlook. Generally speaking, internal changes are self-directed changes that can have positive outcomes when initiated out of one’s integrity and true self. When you make an internal change, you interact with your external world with a different attitude.
In addition to internal changes, there are external changes. These involve outside forces, people, and environments. When you have a change in your external world, you receive information from your environment that can offer you a shift in your inner world. Whether you make an internal or external change, you open yourself up to growth in different ways.
There are different types of change to consider…..
A Change in Perspective. Sometimes what you need is a change in perspective, attitude, and outlook on life. Reading personal development books, listening to inspirational stories, or an empowering meditation can instigate an internal change you need to appreciate your current reality.
A Change in Habits. Making a change to stop a mindless habit or uninspiring hobby can open up space for something new to enter your life. This example of an internal change takes courage and strength to walk away from something you have formed an attachment to. However, if is time to say goodbye, letting go of a habit may be exactly what you need to feel free and optimistic.
A Change in Relationships. This is one of the most difficult things to do. Whether it is a toxic relationship, friends you have outgrown, or family dynamics that don’t support you, changes in your social life are tough. Leaving social dynamics put you in a vulnerable place without the correct support system. Those with an undefined spleen center are susceptible to holding on to people, relationships, and things that are no longer good for them for the sake of security. Without proper awareness and discernment, incorrect relationships and social bonds can keep us from experiencing healthy dynamics and emotions.
A Change in Environment. A change in environment can be a simple walk in nature or a drastic move to a new state or country. In addition, a change in environment could be a living situation or a working setting. This external change can offer you new, fresh energy to break out of a stagnant season.
A Change in Self-Expression. Self-expression encompasses a variety of personal attributes you put out to the world. Forms of self-expression can be represented through your appearance, style, creativity, behavior, demeanor, or voice. Self-expression is one of the best ways to boost your confidence and shift your energy. Buying a new outfit, writing poetry, getting a haircut, or going dancing are all ways to change your expression. Experimenting with different creative outlets can have a positive impact on your sense of self and well-being.
As you can see, there are many types of change and avenues to take when feeling stuck, lost, or discouraged. You can learn what changes may best support you through your human design. Your design gives information about environments that support you and your unique energy, eating styles that may be best for your digestion, and relationship dynamics that may support you. Getting insights about your human design can give you peace about who you truly are, behaviors and beliefs that may be limiting, and strategies to make correct decisions for yourself. If you want life guidance, you can review my human design offerings and request a personalized chart interpretation session with me.
The first step to change is recognizing patterns in your thoughts and feelings. If you’re consistently feeling stuck, depressed, anxious, frustrated, bored, or uninspired by your daily life, it may be time for a change. Whether is it a simple change or a drastic change, taking the initiative to change who you are and the behaviors you have adopted is not easy. As someone who has started over several times in my life with jobs, living situations, and relationships, the first step is always scary. But I have learned over the years to trust myself when I know it's time to move forward…. Even if the next adventure is unclear. In fact, I have shared some tips and tools on how to cope with change in my solo podcast you can listen to below.
As a creative entrepreneur and life adventurer, change and transformation is what I am here to embrace. And I am constantly giving myself permission to ebb and flow in the seasons and identity cycles that I feel called to explore. So, here’s to your evolution and growth…. Thank you for being YOU and keep going.
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